When Belonging Comes with Rules: The Hidden Loneliness of Conservative Churches

Why do so many women feel like outsiders in churches that preach community? I used to think it was just me—that maybe I wasn’t spiritual enough or outgoing enough to belong. But years later, while researching for my dissertation, I came across a study that put words to what I had always felt but couldn’t explain. It turns out, the quiet isolation I experienced in my conservative church wasn’t rare—it was systemic.

In this post, I’m sharing the story of what it felt like to be surrounded by women but still feel alone. We’ll explore the unspoken rules, the surface-level friendships, and why so many women are left longing for real connection in spaces that promise spiritual family.. Read the article here.