Christian Spiritual Abuse Recovery Coach

I remember as I walked away from my conservative church, the fear that felt like it would drown me.

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  • Were you not allowed to ask questions?

  • Did your spiritual leaders work to control what you read, who you listened to, who you socialized with, or what you wore?

  • Did you feel silenced?

  • Have you experienced a church or group that insisted that all women be meek and quiet?

Churches and groups of this nature are called totalistic. I have found that they are often patriarchal, which means that the husband/father has total say over the lives of his wife and children. Women are told to SUBMIT and taught to be silent.

Living in a culture like this puts heavy burdens on the backs of women and children. From home-schooling to keeping a perfect house, in my church, we baked our bread, nursed our babies, and were “help meets”. This can bring a sense of hopelessness, or worse, the water has come to a boil slowly, which kept you from realizing the danger that a community like this brings.

But your story doesn’t have to end here…

Freedom comes when…

  • You fully understand that God loves you dearly and tenderly

  • We know what is true and what leaders manipulated scripture to say

  • The weight of people-pleasing is thrown off

  • Shame is cured because you no longer need to be alone in silence

  • Support is given as you adjust to living outside of a controlling sub-culture

  • Research-based trauma-informed strategies are used to combat anxiety and depression symptoms (It does NOT come from reading your Bible and praying more)

  • Boundaries are created to keep you from another controlling community

  • The dangers of dogmatism are understood

  • Enjoying life is the norm

  • You realize who you are and what you like and dislike

  • I learned to dress differently and do my hair in a more modern way &

  • That I love to go to the beach with the windows down and music playing

Let’s get started now. Click the button to schedule a free 30-minute phone call.

What can I expect in working with a mental health coach?

People are complex, and conservative Christian women are not different. My friends who left the same church as me struggled with their own aspects of the experience.

This is why each of my clients has an individualized plan for healing.

However, whether the client has reservations about how to move forward or has lived with so much pressure that they are tired of living, each client is given trauma-informed care.

This means that I will help you heal from the core so that you will have lasting results.

Totalistic churches rob women of their personality by creating an environment where pressure is used to control how they behave and every other area of their life.

Remember when you started attending the crisp, clean church that has become overwhelming? Women would sit together but not talk deeply?

Research shows that in groups like this, women are pressured into dressing the way the others do, reading or not reading what the group does, and creating a life, at least on the outside, that looks like the others.

Perhaps you have looked around your totalistic church and realized that women are treated as secondary. They do not have a voice.

Did you know that when leaders preach about the woman who is “gossiping” or talking about the “wrong” things, this sends a message?

A message to other women that if they do those things then they may be the next sermon? This robs the woman of her voice, but God gave you a voice.

I am looking forward to supporting you as you heal from spiritual adversity. Don’t wait. Click the link to set up a free 30-minute discovery call.

During our sessions together:

  • Use narrative work to explore what your experience has been.

  • Consider if the manipulation used, what is true and false and how it affected you.

  • Work on the negative emotions and behaviors that trouble you, such as fear, anxiety, panic, sadness, hopelessness, shame, or guilt.

  • Research-based strategies will help you to live free from negative patterns.

  • Truth will be explored, even when considering scripture, if that benefits you.

    However, I will never assume you want to add faith-based strategies to your work with me. This is a safe, judgment-free zone.

  • We will meet the goals that you believe are important.

  • Help you find your voice and feel comfortable living outside a totalistic environment because change can be uncomfortable.

  • Empower you to establish a life of rest and peace.