Good Friday and the God Who Cherishes You

Written By Melodi Kitzmiller

If you’ve been hurt by the church or carry wounds from spiritual abuse, Good Friday can stir up more sorrow than comfort.
I’ve felt that ache too—the tension of loving Jesus but feeling disconnected from the traditions that once brought meaning.

In this tender reflection, I share a personal story from my wedding day—a day that held both heartbreak and healing—and how it helped me understand something deeper about the cross:
That Jesus doesn’t just save us. He cherishes us.

This post isn’t about revisiting the trauma. It’s about making meaning from it—about letting Good Friday remind us that we are seen, safe, and deeply loved by a God who never uses fear to get close.

If you’re walking through church hurt or trying to rebuild your faith, I invite you to read “Good Friday and the God Who Cherishes You.” It’s for women like us.If you’ve been hurt by the church or carry wounds from spiritual abuse, Good Friday can stir up more sorrow than comfort.
I’ve felt that ache too—the tension of loving Jesus but feeling disconnected from the traditions that once brought meaning.

In this tender reflection, I share a personal story from my wedding day—a day that held both heartbreak and healing—and how it helped me understand something deeper about the cross:
That Jesus doesn’t just save us. He cherishes us.

This post isn’t about revisiting the trauma. It’s about making meaning from it—about letting Good Friday remind us that we are seen, safe, and deeply loved by a God who never uses fear to get close..

If you’re walking through church hurt or trying to rebuild your faith, I invite you to read “Good Friday and the God Who Cherishes You.” It’s for women like us. Click to read the article in full.

Melodi Kitzmiller

Christian mental health coaching, and teaching how to live well after experiencing traumatic events, which may include suffering from anxiety, post-trauma symptoms, and depression, and aren’t sure where to go from here. Melodi holds a master of arts in trauma and crisis counseling and works from a Christian worldview. She has helped adults who have suffered traumatic childhoods, spiritual abuse, childhood sexual abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, and those who are simply searching to find the fulfillment that a life of well-being can bring.

https://MelodiKitzmiller.com
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