Is Self-Care Selfish or Sacred?

Written By Melodi Kitzmiller

Many women raised in rigid or religiously legalistic environments were taught to pour themselves out for others—but rarely to pause and care for themselves. The very idea of self-care was often labeled as selfish, indulgent, or even sinful.

In this post, I invite you to rethink that narrative.

If you’ve ever struggled to rest, felt guilty for setting boundaries, or questioned whether your exhaustion was “holy,” this article is for you. As a trauma-informed counselor and fellow sojourner, I explore the emotional, spiritual, and psychological importance of self-care—especially for women healing from spiritual abuse. Let’s rediscover rest not as a luxury, but as a sacred act of reclaiming your God-given humanity. Read the entire article here.

Melodi Kitzmiller

Christian mental health coaching, and teaching how to live well after experiencing traumatic events, which may include suffering from anxiety, post-trauma symptoms, and depression, and aren’t sure where to go from here. Melodi holds a master of arts in trauma and crisis counseling and works from a Christian worldview. She has helped adults who have suffered traumatic childhoods, spiritual abuse, childhood sexual abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, and those who are simply searching to find the fulfillment that a life of well-being can bring.

https://MelodiKitzmiller.com
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